MY FUTURE HUSBAND: TRUTHFULNESS, PASSION AND NOBILITY
Having a good partner is an important aspect of everyone’s life, especially if you would like to start a family someday. You have to choose well about who you are going to share your time with in order to reach happiness, so you must think through qualities that you required in your couple. The main features that my future husband should have are truthfulness, nobility and passion.
Firstly, truthfulness with yourself and with other people is a main quality that I always look for in someone who is around me, my family, my friends and so specially I will require in my future husband. I think you can only get a stable couple whether you prefer to share an imperfect but true life than keep a perfect and false one. Truthfulness contains several important qualities like honesty, frankness and so faithfulness; basic pillars upon which we must to build any long-lasting relationship.
Secondly, another quality which I will look for in my future husband is nobility. Nowadays, society drive us to selfishness and others negatives values; instead I will look for somebody kind-hearted, pretty friendly and without wickedness, who helps a old woman to carry her shopping bags, lets pregnant woman have his seat in the bus or worries about everyone who falls over on the street. Therefore, a noble man would just be the good male head of household that every woman wants.
Finally, the most important quality which I will look for in my future husband is passion; only this feeling, which involves attraction and love, allows you distinguish between your best friend from your future partner. For example, If you don’t feel butterflies in the your stomach or get goose bumps when he appears, you don’t feel passion and that means you are not in love. Although people say that passion is a fleeting feeling, they are wrong. You must only take care of it if you want to feel it for a long time. In my opinion, passion is so...
A popular saying goes, "Marriage involves three rings: the engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering."
If it is commonly felt that marriage is so difficult, why do most people wish to get married? Probably, the instinct to find a mate is inherent in human beings; and I am no exception. Somehow, I believe that there is someone out there who was made specially for me, and, once I find him, we will fall in love, and get married; and only then will I feel complete. So, how will I recognise my Mr Right? What qualities should I be looking for?
First of all, I am not looking for "Mr Tall, Dark and Handsome". Character is more important than looks. I cannot deny that I am attracted to good-looking boys, but marrying solely for physical attraction will probably lead to short term pleasure but life-long regret. I have also noticed that handsome boys are often vain and arrogant, which I find most unattractive. One of the main things that I admire in a man is humility. Such a man will not boast about his wealth, intelligence or achievements, but, instead appreciate other people's abilities and achievements. He will also readily admit when he has made a mistake. Such a man would be a joy to live with.
Good communication is the key to any solid relationship, most of all, marriage. I would want my future husband to share his thoughts with me. I want to hear his dreams and to share in his struggles. On the other hand, I will also need someone who will be ready to listen to me, and interested to know what is happening in my life. There should be no secrets between us.
Life is full of challenges. We can expect to face failure as well as success; heartache as well as joy; boredom as well as excitement. So, the perfect husband should have a positive attitude and a good sense of humour. He should be witty and say things which make me laugh. The perfect husband would also be one who can see the silver lining behind every cloud, rather than focus on the flaws in every situation. With such a man, I will be encouraged to look at life in a happier and more positive way.
Above all other qualities, the perfect husband will be faithful. He must be someone who really believes in that marriage is made to last "till death do us part". He will be totally committed to our relationship, and willing to stay for the long haul, "in sickness and in health, for better or for worse"; as couples promise in the wedding vows. The perfect husband would not be distracted by other women; not even when I have lost my looks. He would be a "one woman man". In return, I will also promise my total loyalty and faithfulness to my future husband.
Actually, there are many other qualities that make a man perfect husband material. For example, one obvious quality would be the ability to provide; and, though it is not the most important quality, physical attraction must be a part of the equation for a marriage to work well. However, while it is easy to make lists, finding a man to live up to them will be very difficult. Furthermore, instead of focusing on my requirements for the perfect husband, I think I should recognise my own imperfections, and set about correcting them. As Barnett Brickner said, "Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate."